Happy 27th Month Birthday, B!
*** This post comes exactly one week late! Time flies! ***
Dear Brayden,
My inquistive little man. We are officially in the “What’s that?” phase. I knew it would come, but I could never imagine just how funny you are and how cute you are when you ask. You hear a noise outside, “What dat?”. We’re reading a book and you point, “What dat?”. Even when you know what things are you will sometimes still ask. One of the funniest times was last week when we were at the zoo with your best buds. You were holding Kylan’s mommy’s hand and you heard a train. You looked up at Kathy and said, “What dat, Kathy? Choo choo Kathy!”. It was really, very cute.
You still LOVE art and are so proud of all your creations. You will start a project and tell me that this one is for Meemaw and that one is for Nana. You love giving your artwork as much as you enjoy creating it, which I love to see.
You also still love singing and love learning new songs. We learned a new song at your preschool class and you made up your own words. You said, “Teddy bear, teddy bear touch your butt!”. Aren’t you a little young for those types of jokes? It still made me laugh so hard and now I encourage it. Probably shouldn’t, but I do. You have a nursery rhyme book and you make Daddy and I sing all the songs to you. Your favorites are ABCs, Twinkle Twinkle Little Star, Old McDonald (which we sing as Old McBrayden), the theme song to the Wonder Pets, and the Itsy Bitsy Spider. You’ve also made up your own words to the Thomas and Friends song.
You are my little bud. We’ve had a few days this month where I’ve had to run a lot of errands, which means a lot of car time for you. Whenever I look back at you I say, “I love you, Brayden”. And you say, “I love YOU!”. And then I say, “No, no, no I love YOU!”. This can go on for awhile, but I love it.
I love seeing your personality develop more and more every month. Right now I think you have the best of both my personality and Daddy’s personality. Okay, maybe you got a little of my stubbornness. Just a little. But, I think you’re getting Daddy’s book smarts, which makes me very happy! A few weeks ago we were “exploring” in the neighborhood and I asked you what do we do when we want to cross the street. You said, “Look left. Look right. Look left again”. And you even looked the correct directions! You are a genius, I tell you! I love how you surprise me with all the things we’ve been teaching you. You area actually listening! You can count to twenty on a good day and can even count backwards. You can sing all of your letters, but you can’t always correctly point them out. We’re working on that!
Brayden, you have such a kind heart. I’m so proud of you whenever you learn something new, but I’m the proudest when you tell someone you love them out of the blue, when you give me a big mooch without me asking and when you say something kind to someone. I hope your heart is always as big as it is now. And I hope you remember that you are never too old to hug and kiss your Mommy!
Love you with all of my heart, Brayden Bug!
Mama
My Milkshake
Carly wrote:
I am a soon to be mom, who is also a wedding photographer. I am meeting with a new bride, who’s wedding is two and half months after my due date. My question is: Did you shoot weddings while breastfeeding?
I’ve been polling moms I know, but none of them truely know how busy your day can be at a wedding. I am just so worried about taking breaks to pump! Any thoughts?
Thank you so much. Love the blog!
I shot my first wedding after Brayden was born when he was just 8 weeks old. I breast fed him for a little over 5 months and probably shot around 6 weddings during that time. I was able to get away with pumping right before the wedding and right after. I got there early and pumped in the car and then sat there after (when all I wanted to do was go home!) and pumped some more. I know that most people would probably have a problem with that, but when I’m shooting a wedding I’m on a total adrenaline rush. I don’t go to the bathroom, I don’t get hungry, and I don’t feel any pain. It’s immediately after the wedding that all those things hit me. My supply was always fine not pumping and I never had any pain. I was lucky.
I also didn’t want to inconvenience my brides. I couldn’t say, “Can you wait 20 minutes to do your first dance until I pump?”. Most of my couples booked me before I even got pregnant. While they were all extremely understanding I didn’t want to make my problem their problem.
In hindsight, what I wish I would have done was hire a third shooter in addition to my second shooter that’s included in my packages. The third shooter could assist for the majority of the wedding and then shoot when I needed to go pump. I did have an assistant at most of the weddings to help carry bags since I was still recovering from a c-section, but it wasn’t someone who I would have felt confident in taking over my spot while I was gone. And as most moms know, it’s not easy to pump when you are feeling rushed and stressed.
If you’re a breast feeding, wedding photographing mommy what did you do?
Back That Thing Up!
*** I’m busy working on lots of shoots over on the DrewB blog this week so I asked my friend Julie from Joy’s Hope to do a guest blog on Mom*tog. I hope you learn lots from her story! ***
Once upon a time when I shot rolls of film I couldn’t wait to take them in to be developed. Then as soon as I got them back they would be carefully organized in boxes and scrapbooks.
But then I got a digital camera. I got lazy. I took more pictures, but I printed less pictures.
One thing I did do monthly was burn them on to discs.
I had a PC and was paranoid that it would crash.
Thankfully, it never did and I have four years of carefully saved images.
Then I got a shiny, beautiful Mac.
I foolishly assumed that because it was an Apple it wouldn’t crash.
My OCD monthly disc burns stopped. My iPhoto folders were organized. But they were not safe.
It was on my to do list, but it was one of those things that never got done.
Out of the blue my hard drive crashed.
Just like that.
Gone.
Two years of photos.
Adios.
My baby girl’s entire life was on that hard drive.
I was a crying mess for days.
I learned a horrible, horrible lesson.
A hard drive is a hard drive.
Mac or PC.
They are the same.
The question isn’t IF it will crash.
The question is WHEN it will crash.
Have I scared you yet?
I really, really, hope so.
I honestly hope that I have terrified you!
Now the devastated drive sits in a drawer in my kitchen.
It will sit there until I can save enough extra money to pay the data recovery magicians.
Thankfully, I will get those images back. But it will not be easy. It certainly will not be cheap.
I had a new hard drive put in my Mac.
I installed an external hard drive.
All was well.
Until I started thinking about how many other things I lost.
Fonts, digital scrapbooking kits, sewing e-patterns, my carefully compiled bookmarks, Photoshop actions, much of my iTunes….
I could go on and on. The sheer volume of information that we trust our computer to hold on to is staggering.
Think about how much you have on your computer right now.
Think about having to start over.
With everything.
Doesn’t sound too fun, right?
Guess what?
My new external hard drive crashed.
I’m not kidding.
Not much was on it, and what was on it I had still saved on the Mac.
But really???
Because one electronic disaster in a month wasn’t awesome enough?
So I signed up for Mozy.
Daily they automatically back up your computer to their servers.
Just in case I am the girl with the worst luck in the world, they can restore everything.
Why didn’t I know about them a month ago?
Now you know.
You have no excuses.
Get an external hard drive.
Sign up for a service as an additional safety net.
Burn your pictures on discs.
Don’t be me.
Because it is beyond traumatic and awful.
But the worst part of all, it is preventable.

Race Day
On Saturday I ran my very first race. A 5K. I didn’t start off with a small race. No. I ran my first race with over 28,000 people. It was a bit crazy. And overwhelming. And scary. But, I didn’t trip. And I did finish! And I was able to reach my goal of raising $1000 for women’s cancer research thanks to so many of you! THANK YOU!
My official race time was 34:04. Although, I clocked in at around 32 (forgot to stop my Nike +) and I swear it was over a 5K. My Nike + says I ran just under 4 miles and I checked it at the track last night and it’s only off by about 2/10 of a mile. I don’t know what’s up with that. I’m just saying, I think they were lying when they said it was a 5K.
The Revlon Run / Walk was very emotional. It was hard running past people with signs and pictures on their backs of loved ones lost too early and loved ones who are fighting for their lives right now. And it was also encouraging to see so many survivors there. I’m not going to lie. I shed a few tears. It was all very overwhelming.
The main reason I was there was to run the race in memory of my BFF’s mom. I wanted to run in her mom’s name, but also to show Michelle that I am supporting her every step of the way. Michelle and her family unfortunately couldn’t be there because she got super sick the day before. I know she wanted to be there more than anything. I hope I was able to make her proud!
Brayden wanted his own sign. He looks thrilled, doesn’t he? Waking up at 5:45 apparently isn’t his thing.
I’m not a fan of being at the Coliseum, for obvious reasons (that team that plays there who wears red and gold) but it was pretty cool running through the tunnel onto the field. A drum team playing for you. People cheering. The Olympic torch lit. Pretty rad. I got goosebumps.
And Brayden is still looking thrilled. Totally unimpressed with his Mom. He fell asleep about 15 minutes later.
I didn’t run as well as I hoped. I started out too fast. Bobbing and weaving around the walkers and getting caught up in the whole race thing. But, I’m happy I did it. Not sure I will be doing another race anytime soon, but it feels good to get one under my belt to prove to this girl who couldn’t run for a minute straight 3 months ago that I can do it!
Thanks again for all of your support!
Happy Mother’s Day!
I hope that all of you amazing and wonderful Mamas had a beautiful and relaxing day! Until I became a Mom I never realized exactly how hard it was going to be. Sure, I figured I would be tired and I knew it would be a lot of work. But, you never really appreciate all that your own Mom did for you until you do it for someone else. So, thank you to my amazing Mom for:
- Waking up in the middle of the night to take care of me.
- Holding me while I cried.
- Playing with me while I was happy.
- Teaching me everything I needed to know.
- Kissing my boo boos.
- Dealing with me during my difficult times (okay ,difficult years as in ages 10 – 17).
- Reading the countless notes I dropped from the top of the stairs.
- Being my number one fan.
- For all the times you put my very thick hair in sponge curlers to make sure I had the perfect curls.
- Not disowning me whenever I packed my suitcase and hid it on the side of the bed and threatened to run away.
- Stealing Anthony Rapp’s name card in London and the poster from the subway.
- For being an awesome soccer mom, softball coach, and Brownie leader.
- Sticking up for me when I needed to be stuck up for.
- And for being the best Grandma to Brayden.
Mom, I appreciate everything YOU sacrificed to make me the person that I am today. Thank you for always loving me unconditionally. I love you!
And the winner of the Bloom Workshop Silent Member spot is… Dana Fowler! Congrats, Dana! The ladies from Bloom will be in touch!



































